Divorce lawyers are not all created equal as in many professions.  Choosing the right one to fit your needs is the most important task.  I am very passionate about my chosen profession and move my client's aggressively through the process.  Few words can describe how you want to go about the divorce process better than "action causes reaction," and "you can only control what you can only control."  So you will not have answers to all the questions as to why your spouse is doing what they are doing or why your life is now in the situation that it is in.    You need a plan from the beginning to the end of the case to help you through this mess.  It is comparable to war in that you need a battleplan, entrance strategy and exit strategy to have ultimate success.  Just like a root canal the best thing about the divorce process is when it is finally over.