Divorce is cripply our society. After representing people through the divorce process for close to three decades I have discovered that there is a right way and a wrong way to proceed. It stars with your attitude and a desire for peace as opposed to strife. I have discovered how love, forgiveness and integrity can greatly influence your outcome. Our court system and yes, even the attorneys, approach the divorce process as a win/lose proposition. Of course, everyone wants to win, but that means there needs to be someone who loses. The problem with that approach is you will still need to bury the hatchet at the end of the divorce. And while you’re burying your hatchet you’ll need to try and bury all your emotions and let all the pain go as well. Believe me, without help, that’s a tall order to fill.

Your decision-making should occur at the right time, after you cool off and can be forgiving; then you can emotionally make a well-thought-out decision. Have an inner circle of people you trust to go to about your decision-making, not your problems. Your friends should not be recruited because they will take your side. Those friends in all likelihood are using you for their benefit. In my old way of being, I thought more of myself and what I wanted out of the client relationship. This would naturally put me into a position of needing my client to win—my client must win, the spouse must lose, for me to feel important. This naturally resulted in me assuming the emotions of my clients. Utilizing love, forgiveness, and integrity created a new way of being for me which has resulted in joy, peace and happiness.

Signed,

Tim Ash

Author of Confessions of a Divorce Lawyer, learn more at                                                                     See my video: ?usp=drive_web

Awards: 2018, 2019, 2020 American Institute of Family Lawyers 10 BEST Attorneys.

2020 American Institute of Legal Advocates ELITE ADVOCATE.

2019 Laywers of Distinction Recognizing Excellence in Family Law and 2021 Lawyers of Distinction Recognizing Excellence in Family Law See Video    

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